When arguments are pointless, indifference results.

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When arguments are pointless, indifference results.

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I've seen various memes in the past that claim fights are no longer worthwhile as individuals become older. As if you'll simply reply, "You're right," to anything someone says and go on with your life. Recently, it has seemed like I am really starting to get the feel of it.

As any of my regular readers would already be aware, I am straightforward and honest. I don't sugarcoat my words as most people do; I simply say what I mean. Unfortunately, some individuals find it disrespectful to be such a person.

(I will also stand my ground and assert my rights if I believe I have a good cause to. But like everyone else, I also picked up lessons through time. One of them is that I will be quick to admit when something is a waste of time and effort and won't participate much at all.)

Do I find it annoying when individuals get upset when the truth is revealed? I believe it worried me when I was younger, but maybe not all that much. As I became older, I grew used to these responses and am now unconcerned about it.

Like everyone else, I undoubtedly experience a wide range of emotions, but discussing apathy is not as prevalent as it should be. I became worried that I would not be able to compose anything. Thank goodness, as I was ready to fall asleep, I suddenly realized that I needed to write this.

You see, someone would often comment on my writings on religion on another site. After Lent, I've started publishing more of them (as you may have seen, I also do so on Hive). For some reason, the individual would always respond, proving to the world just how knowledgeable they were on the subject. That sort of belief is held by this individual, who I will refer to as A for atheist and refer to using the pronoun "they" to maintain their identity.

In the beginning (say, a year or two ago), I would sometimes get irritated. There were moments when it seemed as if they were upset and trying to make me take the fall for whatever it was that they didn't like about the world or whatever. Like, hey, am I the cause of such a significant problem?

Everyone, as we all know, struggles with something. But just because we have a different perspective from them doesn't mean we have to be upset with them. If you're venting your rage on someone else rather than the thing, circumstance, or person you should be furious about, you have a serious issue. I am aware of how that is. Unfortunately, not many individuals who do that are aware of it.

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Knowing oneself may be very beneficial.
I really feel like a lot better version of myself after Lent. (You can learn why by reading my previous postings on it.) So I would just "go along with it" whenever A would react these days and have extended responses. Maybe I'm simply making fun of this individual more these days.

A and I had another online conversation last night, for some reason. Yes, I did post something about religion. It was OK at first, but then it happened again, and I was inundated with all the knowledge they knew on the subject. A reverted to the "I'm always right" attitude she previously displayed. Oh yeah, I'm so relieved I've already moved through that stage. Fortunately, I am wise enough to know better and would just refuse to take A's insults personally. The finest type of apathy is shown in this situation.

As I indicated at the beginning of this piece, I have already evolved into one of those individuals who would like to avoid wasting their time on pointless activities. Sure, sir. It is pointless to argue with someone who has already decided what they believe. Being narrow-minded is not attractive. Being arrogant or disrespectful of others is also wrong. At that point, all we can do is congratulate them and let them continue if they so want.
When someone is experiencing an emotional outburst (especially when they are in the grip of fury or indignation, terror, or even a sobbing episode), they are often not thinking clearly.
So the best thing we can do in such circumstances is to just let the individual to vent. Additionally, if they need assistance solving an issue, do so firmly. (Yes, I am aware of what to do in such circumstances owing to my customer service abilities. I get annoyed when there isn't enough of it because of this, but life is what it is. Nobody receives training to work in customer or member service or even to develop suitable leadership abilities.)

After they've spoken whatever they had to say, we may even be able to comfort them at some time. Why? That individual wants to injure other people because they are suffering and are having an outburst. The majority of the time, they are ignorant about it, yet they are still upset about it.

You are aware that the truth is painful. Like that statement from a well-known movie...
Sometimes they would acknowledge their error and apologize after everything was said and done. But of course, if they are too proud or are just not conscious of themselves, they will either (1) shrug it off as if they did nothing wrong or (2) keep treating everyone the same way.

A's situation appeared to indicate that they don't have anybody else with whom to discuss their dislike of religion. (A has often remarked that she doesn't have any pals.) Why else would people respond to anything I write that is religious? Normal people would just scroll away, but not these people. Haha. Most of the time, all they have to do is comment on what I wrote. It seems like A is constantly up for a battle and eager to uphold their honor. Lol. But if it just irks them personally, who are they attacking?

Consider this:
It is comparable to someone seeing a flower they are allergic to while out on a stroll. That flower is standing there in the direct sunshine, spreading its petals and perfume for everyone to enjoy, when suddenly—bang! Since the individual is allergic to it, they chop it off, including the whole bush. Out of rage, the individual went straight to the flower bush rather than complaining to the owner or maybe the village elder. The poor flower, tsk tsk. Fortunately, it is indifferent despite being already dead and severed from the stem. Although the flower/receiver provided a poor illustration, the principle should still be clear.

As you can see, A is an additional illustration of a person who is fixed in their ways. There is absolutely no way to alter that person's mind or viewpoint because they are too brilliant, are always correct, or are believed to be an authority on the subject. So what's the purpose of debating or conversing with them about it, you ask? When speaking to someone in such manner, everything you say or do will be incorrect. (Sounds recognizable? Haha.)

A and I ended that online exchange with laughing emojis because of my disregard for such conduct. Isn't it incredible? I was able to keep things calm and courteous instead of starting what would have turned into a long thread of fury and insults. (Win-win for all parties?)

The greatest method to practice indifference is to act in that manner. The finest thing we can do for global peace is to remain calm and unaffected when someone is going on a rampage. Remember to include empathy as well. Seriously.

But remember: Ignoring someone is not the same as being indifferent.
I'm not advocating that we constantly disregard other people. Everyone only wants to be seen and heard. If you don't provide it to them and instead hurl stones at them, you are just making matters worse. And what results from that? You know, all of this internet animosity will undoubtedly send us all to hell, where no one will be pleased.

Tolerance can only go you so far, but aloofness may also be helpful. Of course, each situation is unique. It's great to utilize this for everyone's benefit.
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