Be Cautious.

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A relationship takes caution and extra care. Many people are with various views based on years of experiences and their exposure. Each partner wants to stake their claims and be in control of things. Sometimes this tussle for relevance and recognition cause a lot of issues.

Some guys want to exercise their rights as a man and enforce some things on the ladies because they feel they should be in control and they want their ego to be intact. Some actually want the lady to be subjected to them, and this is not how a relationship should be. The moment you have to exert yourself through forceful dealings, you have lost that liberty of being called a man. A lion is a lion, you wouldn’t still want to move near a lion whether he roars or not. You should be a man without having to make your partner live in fear or make her feel inferior.

Some ladies love everything to be rosy. It is a good desire. Man thinks in numbers sometimes but ladies thinks mostly in emotions They want all the mushy mushy dealings without knowing a man needs to think about making his life and that of his partner better. They want attention all the time. It is a good thing but in reality, things happen that might not make that happen all the time. Some ladies are bossy, some are so gentle, some are so open to express themselves while some will bottle it all in, (maybe because they feel their partner won’t allow them to express themselves, so they try to avoid issues).

This is not to justify both sides, that was why I highlighted both shortcomings. The truth is, we have different background and exposures. We have different ways by which we desire to be loved, so if you don’t know how your partner deserved to be loved, simply ask and be intentional about it. Both parties should find a common ground; a level ground amidst these show of attention and desires and do it deliberately. A relationship takes caution and it requires constant watering.


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Seek balance is everything. You have to balance your emotions, you have to balance your life and your life involves those things that are so dear to you. When you have children, you can’t love your children too much that you ignore your wife or your husband. Little cracks can sink a strong relationship. Those cracks might not be too visible, but it determines a whole lot, as it brings about a disconnect, and once that happens, that relationship is already nose-diving.

This brings me to communication. Care about what your partner has to say. Never overlook even the tiniest of things like a text, a missed call and the information passed must not be lost too. Show that you care and don't hide under the guise of 'I have been busy'. We all know that no matter how busy we are, we can make time for what is truly important. That tiny bit of time matters even if it isn't much.

Don't try to excuse your way out of it but be intentional to balance things. There is no one without worries or some things that trouble us. We all find a way to deal with it in a more matured way.

Take care of the little stuff, be sensitive, be considerate, be loving, be understanding, be gentle. A relationship is not only about you, so don’t be selfish. Think about the other person too, and it will help your choices better. Take decisions together, it helps and gives you stuffs to talk about and it strengthens the bond.

A relationship takes caution, do all you can with the other person in mind. There is a thin line between love and hate. Be considerate. Love can die if you don’t water it continuously.

Don't base your decisions on the advice of those who don't have to deal with the results. Who are you trying to impress? The society that has changing standards based on how they feel? Your parents, who won't live forever and you have to live and deal with their unnecessary effect in the long run? Your friends, who would never tell you the deeper troubles they are dealing with as well? Who paints the picture-perfect of a fake reality?

This is your life and no one would teach you how to live it. I can advise you, even point you in the direction you would go but it is your choice to walk the length of it. When people give you advice, weigh it in and make your choice.

A relationship is more technical. It is not like buying cloth in a mall and after you feel it wasn't a right fit, you can return it. The same society you are trying to impress would still be the same one that would be counting your breakups for you if you don't take caution before delving into marriage or any kind of relationship.


Thank you for your time.


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Thank you so much.